It’s been a wonderful week, one that I couldn’t believe was happening to me. I opened two emails in one night and found out that I had been nominated for one blogging award and given honorable mention for the other. I never dreamed….
I’m so surprised by my nomination for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award” — so surprised that I can’t believe it. When I opened my in-box and found it, I thought it was a post about someone else. I’m honored because I know there are so many other bloggers — wonderful bloggers — out there who deserve it. Thank you, Lisa (Mysweetpeanut.com) for reading my blog and for sharing and inspiring us with yours.
I’m awed by Lisa because of the many things she balances in her life as she cares for her mother who has alzheimer’s, as my husband does, and how she does it all with young children and very little outside help. I know how difficult it is to care for an alzheimer’s patient because the further along the disease progresses, the more it is like caring for a three-year-old .
When I started Alzheimerswife four years ago, it was just for family members and close friends to let them know how things were going with Bo. They would call and I couldn’t talk because he would be nearby, so I’d reply to their questions with: “Oh, we’re just here on the sofa watching TV” or “We’re just here in the kitchen” and they would understand that I couldn’t talk. So the blog was born and secretly I hoped that just one stranger would find it and perhaps identify because we shared the same life. And then one day, I did hear from a woman thousands of miles away who wrote that she felt better knowing that I was here, and it made writing Alzheimerswife so much more important to me. And she motivated me to go on.
So thank you, everyone, for following our life down this dark journey.
This is an award that we pay forward — honoring the bloggers whom we follow and who inspire us. Here are the rules:
- Thank and link to the amazing person who nominated you.
- List the rules and display the award.
- Share seven facts about yourself. (Hard to do)
- Nominate 15 other amazing blogs and comment on their posts to let them know they have been nominated. (Maybe 5 this round? )
- Proudly display the award logo on your blog and follow the blogger who nominated you.
Now, to share the seven facts about myself. This is hard for me. When I’m asked to do something like this, I fall back on my career and think of seven things I hope I accomplished….. but who wants to read that? Yet everything else seems so ….. mundane. But here goes —
1. I love to write — always have. Love to teach — always have. By now you’ve probably figured out that I’m an English teacher and although I retired from my regular teacher/administrator job, I continue to teach for Fairleigh Dickinson University. But I’ve always found myself “teaching” something to someone — taking groups to the museum, to travel, to …. whatever I could snag them for so I could teach. It’s in my blood.
2. I’m mad about my Charlie cat and Emma dog. Who else could possibly give me so much love and affection? And, in Emma’s case, share everything with me, especially car rides to Starbucks for a ham sandwich. Both Charlie and Emma are wonderful rescue adoptees — their sweet and funny ways make my life so much richer. Oh, and Charlie walks like John Wayne.
3. I love to cook …. much of the time, although truthfully, I’d rather do fancy desserts and have someone else do the rest. Don’t you just hate trying to come up with food ideas EVERY DAY?? If someone would plan and shop for me, it would be perfect.
4. I have a new family. Instant grandchildren that I enjoy so much. (Bo’s caregiver and his family moved in with us last fall when their home burned.) We went from a family of two (for 52 years) to a family of six, from a lonely, tired house full of Alzheimer’s to new interests and joys. And I have someone to talk with again.
5. I’m a ballroom and Argentine tango dancer, that is, until I had to take a break a few years ago with foot and knee problems, but I plan to return as soon as I can. I started when I was 40 and just went crazy with dancing love. Bo wouldn’t do it but encouraged me to enjoy myself, so I went alone, made wonderful friends, got to buy fancy fancy clothes and shoes and dance my heart out. ( One time a friend and I went swing dancing 13 nights in a row!)
6. I alphabetize my spices. Oh, yes, I do. Isn’t there some saying about people over- organizing in an effort to get control of their lives? Maybe. Maybe not. Anyway, I like to be able to find thyme when I need it!
7. I’ve always loved being active and spent countless hours waterskiing (a friend and I actually skied 68 miles one day by never getting out of the water/boat,) snow skiing, playing tennis, enjoying life on the Chesapeake Bay or at the Jersey shore.
7. AND — drum roll — I love, love, love, love love Paris!
And now to nominate my favorite bloggers. I got to meet so many wonderful new bloggers this summer when I participated in the June Writing 101 project. So many of them have received the Very Inspiring Blogger Award already, am I allowed to re-nominate them? If not, here’s a start in the right direction.
1. Alice in Memoryland – Alice writes with honesty and sometimes painful description of her life since her husband’s diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment. When I read her blog, I find myself saying, “That’s exactly what I’ve felt too!” and I’ve passed it on to a friend whose husband also has MCI. Her reaction was the same: “I could have written that!”
2. Reflections on Dimentia, Caregiving and Life in General is written by Frangipani, a blogger in Singapore, who tells of life with her mother who has vascular dementia and alzheimers. She often tells stories through dialog of caring for her mother. Also, she gives us glimpses of her city and the beauty around her.
3. CosmicGirlie – she’s a professional photographer responsible for the weekly photo event – Silent Sundays – that many of us have joined. The mother of two boys, she’s often hard-hitting and irreverent, telling things as they are; but her love for those two brilliant little boys shines through with passion in her photographs.
4. The Schmiddle Ages – I love her blog subtitle: For the late bloomers who are still writing the chapters of their life. Such a good writer. I was first drawn into April’s blog through Writing 101, enjoying her humorous and honest stories that combined a story with a cause. “A lifestyle blog” is how she describes her blog, writing about everything from life with her husband to tourist attractions in Atlanta, cooking and gardening.
5. The Legend of Sara – I first found Sara when I was participating in Writing 101 this June when she wrote “My red [left] ankle” and I continued to enjoy her blogs. Sara describes herself as and artist and a Creative Writing major lost in Corporate America in Chicagoland. I love her passion for wellness and life.
6. Demented Girl – Her story of caring for her mother-n-law for five years is documented through her own dementia poetry — words from her head and her heart — her life in cadence. She’s gritty and strong and has a way with poetry that few have. (Surely not me!)